keepin’ it real: finding your blogging style

  • girl dressed up as a pirate by Melissa Gibson

keepin’ it real: finding your blogging style

Blogging has become an important part of businesses, but also a fun little hobby for people like myself.  You can showcase your latest work, your child’s art and recent happenings in your life.  Perhaps you own a business blog where you post images and advice for clients.  Maybe you have a how-to blog that includes tips and crafts for the home. Or?  You could be like me, and have a personal blog where you post images and stories of your little ones so that family and out-of-town friends can keep up with the latest funnies.  Either way,  if you operate a blog you must remember to keep it real.  Today, I’m going to share 5 tips that will hopefully help you do just that.  Listen up, People.

1.  Promote Positively:

If you choose to advertise on your blog, promote ONLY what you would use yourself.  Share and link to sites that you visit and are proud of. I link to Clickin Moms a LOT because I dig those people.  Have pride in your sponsors and make sure you can back them, their product or their site.  Don’t support anything that your Granny wouldn’t approve of.

2.  Be Honest:

What if you ran into one of your readers at Target?  Would they say you’re exactly as they imagined?  Make sure your online self is the same as your real life self.  Also?  Don’t steal words, one liners, or analogies from other bloggers.  It’s not cool.  Ever.  Posers are losers.  Always.

3.  Just Write:

When it’s time to blog, do you get all antsy and panicked?  Stopping and starting and stopping again?  Well?  DON’T.  When it’s time to write,  just sit yourself down and start typing.  DON’T STOP.  Pretend you’re talking to a girlfriend and let the words just flow.  Tell your friend all about it and type the way you speak.  Be candid, approachable, and professional.  You can go back later to correct your mistakes.

4.  Write drunk; edit sober (Ernest Hemingway):

Once you have gone all crazy with the blogging, written out your funny family story or your how-to session tips?  Take a break.   Leave your computer and focus your attention on something else.  Like on chocolate or pancakes.  Or chocolate covered pancakes.  Let your mind rest.  Come back to edit when you’re fresh.  And full.  “Sober”, so to speak.

5.  Be Yourself:

Are you a funny gal in real life?  Let that goofiness show.  Are you more serious and dainty?  Serious?  Show that.  Don’t pretend to be some really rad supermom-photographer-blogger-storyteller when you know you just sit around in your parents’ basement playing online poker wearing your brother’s t-shirt and your mom’s hair rollers.  Just BE YOU and you’ll be rad.  I promise.

These days?  Blogging is your voice.  It is your thoughts, your feelings, your funnies.  Blogging is your way to connect with the world.  Therefore, I encourage you to use that voice with genuineness, honesty and positivity.  Don’t pretend to be something you’re not, don’t snag another person’s humor, and don’t use big words that you wouldn’t normally use like “therefore”, “genuineness”, and “positivity”.  All in all, don’t be a poser.

Wanna know some of my favorite bloggers that know how to keep it real?

The Pioneer Woman
Baby Rabies
Young House Love

And?  Since I can NEVER end a blog post without some images of my littles?  Here’s one from when I first started and one that’s recent.

the importance of keeping your writing and bloggin real by Melissa Gibson

the importance of keeping your writing and bloggin real by Melissa Gibson

How’s THAT for keeping it real?


About the Author:

Melissa is a proud MWAC who gears up with a Nikon D700, prime lenses, and edits her “fun, childlike, and whimsical” photography solely in Photoshop Elements. Melissa's goal both now and when she first began her photography journey in 2005 is to, in her own words, “remember my girls’ lives for them. They are so young yet growing so quickly. I know they won’t remember it all so I feel it’s my job to document it for them.” Visit Melissa Gibson online.


  1. celestejones Mar 05 2013 at 11:49 am - Reply

    I love your writing style. Great information and very enjoyable to read too.

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 9:53 am - Reply

      Thank you, Celeste! (excited for your Breakout!!!)

  2. Jodi Mar 05 2013 at 11:57 am - Reply

    you crack me up, melissa, even when you’re being so smart and serious! thanks for sharing these tips for writing… i’m guilty of freezing in panic when i look at a blank screen when blogging. i need to remember to think about what i would say if i was just hanging out chatting with you. 🙂

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 9:54 am - Reply

      Oh Jodi!! Remember that time? In Atlanta? When we met and we flipped for each other? Ah….that was wonderfully wonderful. :hp Thank you for your sweet words my friend.

  3. Erin Pasillas Mar 05 2013 at 12:11 pm - Reply

    Great post. I’m all for keeping it real… But often wonder if I’m as funny as I think I am;) so, I’m taking your advice and just being totally me and no more stuffy online version!! Thanks for an entertaining and informative read!!

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 9:57 am - Reply

      Yes!! So long Stuffy Erin!! :giggle I’m betting you are totally funny! I’m going to watch your blog for it. *wink*

  4. Laura Gattis Mar 05 2013 at 12:16 pm - Reply

    I kind of needed this pick-me-up this morning! So much pressure when it comes to blogging and this was so refreshing. I especially like the “write drunk, edit sober.” Think I’ll pop open a can of champagne right now. And yes, I said a can. 🙂

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 9:57 am - Reply

      Ha! That champagne comment cracks me up, Laura!

  5. Kimberley Mar 05 2013 at 12:23 pm - Reply

    Love this post! A great reminder for me as someone who just started blogging (literally three days ago). My biggest goal for my blog is to keep it real and authentic to who I am. I researched a lot about blogging before I started and everyone tells you to pick a niche and stick with it, well that would totally not be me to just pick one niche…..but then again my niche is my life, and that is what I plan on blogging about 🙂

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 9:58 am - Reply

      Oh a new blogger! I’m glad this post was helpful, Kimberley! Have fun blogging!

  6. Caroline Jensen Mar 05 2013 at 12:25 pm - Reply

    You rock! I want to be you when I grow up. That is all. 🙂

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:00 am - Reply

      Oh thank you, Caroline! Wait, if YOU want to be ME does that mean I have to live up NORTH?! Eeek….maybe you can just move south and we can hang out like the rad redheads that we are? 😀

  7. Heather Meyer Mar 05 2013 at 12:26 pm - Reply

    Melissa, I love you. 🙂

    I have a question. What is your take on combining personal and professional? I have a blog/website for my photography that I would like to maybe one day take to a professional level. Then I have a (very neglected) blog that I used to write on with very personal thoughts about my life and I used it for raising awareness for my daughter’s disease. Can I combine those? Or would it be considered unprofessional? My life and photography definitely revolves around Lindsey’s ups and downs, but how much do you share on a blog that way while still keeping it somewhat professional? Does that all make sense?

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:03 am - Reply

      Hi Heather. I’m loving you back. <3 About combining personal and professional, I would definitely combine them. Your life is your girls and Lindsey's disease comes along with that. Your photography is your creativity and outlet in life. Why wouldn't you combine those two? You simply can't have one without the other, I think. 🙂 If you aren't comfy sharing some of Lindsey's experiences, you can always make those private on the blog. But yes, I'd surely combine those two huge parts of your life and run with it.

  8. holly powell Mar 05 2013 at 12:49 pm - Reply

    Love this – you are so funny and talented!!!

  9. Meredith Mar 05 2013 at 12:49 pm - Reply

    You’re the realest of them all. 😉

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:04 am - Reply

      Meredith!! Thank you, friend! 🙂

  10. Aimee Mar 05 2013 at 12:57 pm - Reply

    Love this!

  11. Nancy Mar 05 2013 at 1:03 pm - Reply

    Loved the Ernest Hemingway quote. I often worry as I’m writing if it is too wordy, too self revealing, too personal, too . . . whatever; or, not enough . . . whatever. I loved this reminder to just freely write — and check later. Good way to not inhibit some great inspiration before it even gets a chance to come out.

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:05 am - Reply

      Yes!! No inhibiting that inspiration!! Just do it, Nancy. Just do it! 🙂

  12. Mary Mar 05 2013 at 1:07 pm - Reply

    Loved reading this, Melissa…you know how to let yourself shine through in your writing for sure!!! 🙂

  13. momgtog_kat Mar 05 2013 at 1:34 pm - Reply

    You rock, Melissa.

  14. Adele Humphries Mar 05 2013 at 2:26 pm - Reply

    bwahahahahaha!!! Awesome as usual Melissa! 🙂

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:11 am - Reply

      Adele, you are seriously one of the funniest people I know. This is a huge compliment to me so thank you! Miss your face big time!!

  15. Laura Mar 05 2013 at 3:01 pm - Reply

    This was awesome, Melissa! I think I need to start writing with a glass (or a bottle) of wine.

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:12 am - Reply

      Haha, Laura! Just the other day I was writing “drunk” on Fruit Roll Ups. Perhaps they fermented or something?? Or maybe it’s because I ate 7?

  16. Kristy Mar 05 2013 at 3:55 pm - Reply

    Melissa, you are the queen of keeping it real and I love that you use the word “rad”!!! more people should use that word 🙂 love love love this post!!!!!!

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:13 am - Reply

      Thank you Kristy! And that rad word is just so…RAD! 😀

  17. Holly Thompson Mar 05 2013 at 4:25 pm - Reply

    Such good advice and so well-written! Melissa, we all love your conversational, witty, and honest writing. <3

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:13 am - Reply

      Hi Holly! Thank you! I hope you and your sweeties have a wonderful day today!

  18. valerie Mar 05 2013 at 4:27 pm - Reply

    i heart you!!!!!! THIS, is why I need more Melissa in my life. Thank you!!!!!!

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:15 am - Reply

      Valerie!!! We MUST meet!! Remember that time you went to Destin just after we did? A spur of the moment road trip of sorts? Yeah, I REALLY wanted to tag along!! I bet we could be besties. Except you wear aprons and I don’t even cook. :giggle

  19. Kristin Dokoza Mar 05 2013 at 4:35 pm - Reply

    It’s official. I love you. Thank you for your tips and advice – I am exactly that person who sits down to write and starts, stops, erases – it’s ridiculous. You. are. the coolest. That’s keeping it real.

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:16 am - Reply

      Hi Kristin!! The IG Goddess. So happy that we met and I hugged your neck in real life. Your new kicks rock and I’m loving you back. :hp

  20. Melissa Stottmann Mar 05 2013 at 4:44 pm - Reply

    You, Melissa, are far too much! Can I be you? … oh wait, that would be me a loser poser… boo 🙁 hahah

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:18 am - Reply

      We’ve got the same name so that’s a good start!! Haha!

  21. louise o'dwyer Mar 05 2013 at 5:50 pm - Reply

    great stuff and i love your images on blog x

  22. Lacey Mar 05 2013 at 6:52 pm - Reply

    LOL … such great tips, Melissa! It is one of the hugest compliments when someone meets me after reading my blog and says I’m exactly as they would have expected … LOVE that. Love you, too! xoxo

    • Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:20 am - Reply

      Hi Lacey! I love reading blogs that give me a little glimpse of the bloggers personality. I get the feeling that you are just the sweetest, caring, patient, talented and beautiful person. I really need to see you and smooch your cheek. Don’t think I won’t. :hp xoxo

  23. Carrie Mar 05 2013 at 11:34 pm - Reply

    Now THAT was a funny read!

  24. Melissa Mar 06 2013 at 10:20 am - Reply

    Ha! Thanks so much, Carrie!

  25. czarina Mar 06 2013 at 1:22 pm - Reply

    love this melissa! your personally totally shows on how you write.

  26. Ana Mar 06 2013 at 5:41 pm - Reply

    Great article and tips! The text on that last photo make me laugh. 🙂 Just went over and quickly checked out your blog and IG…love your photos! Going to check them out more later, because I really should be starting dinner right now.

    • Melissa Mar 11 2013 at 1:56 pm - Reply

      Hi Ana and thank you for your sweet words. 🙂

  27. Lisa (Tout Petit Pixel) Mar 07 2013 at 4:49 am - Reply

    Yay! Now I can shamelessly have a mojito before writing my blog articles because Melissa told me it was cool (well, and Hemingway, too, which is double cool. Maybe I should try Margarita instead haha).
    If you read too much crazy stuff on my blog though, please send me a reminder about the “edit sober” part 😀

    • Melissa Mar 11 2013 at 1:57 pm - Reply

      Lisa!! Your “margarita” comment made me giggle because I’m wondering how your sweet little Frenchie voice sounds as you say it… :hihi

  28. judy Mar 07 2013 at 9:24 am - Reply

    You have a wonderful way with writing Melissa. I really struggle with this so thank you for the article…very helpful!

  29. Kim Mar 07 2013 at 10:05 am - Reply

    YOU are funny! Love the tips AND your writing style. This is something I struggle with so I’ll take your words to heart and sit down to type with a glass of wine tonight. 🙂

    • Melissa Mar 11 2013 at 1:59 pm - Reply

      Hi Kim! So, how’d it go with the wine? :giggle

  30. Marta Mar 07 2013 at 3:38 pm - Reply

    Your posts always make me giggle Melissa. I always enjoy them 🙂 Great information. I’m always stuck on what to write in my blog…I’m always concerned more by how it comes off to others. Thanks for keepin it realz! 😉

    • Melissa Mar 11 2013 at 1:59 pm - Reply

      Marta!! My little buddy! Thank you for the sweetness!

  31. Jaimi L. Mar 08 2013 at 2:19 pm - Reply

    Great, solid advice, Melissa! You are rad just the way you are!!

    • Melissa Mar 11 2013 at 2:00 pm - Reply

      Jaimi, right back at ‘cha girl. 😀

  32. Jessica Reischel Mar 08 2013 at 8:41 pm - Reply

    ROFL as I read #5. Are you a stand up comedian Melissa? You are so funny!!!! Thank you making me laugh!! 😉

  33. Emily Mar 19 2013 at 11:07 am - Reply

    Great advice! I need to start a blog someday, but it just hasn’t happened yet. I will certainly keep these tips in mind whenever I decide to stop being lazy and start blogging! 😉

  34. Alicia Mar 26 2013 at 4:44 pm - Reply

    I wonder if anyone has found success without using a blog?

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