Often, I am asked…. How do you get all your boys to sit for you at the same time for a picture?
Or how do you get them all to cooperate and look so natural?
Or, I’m told, it’s so great how your boys like to be in front of the camera AND with each other!!
Well, the truth is, it’s not so much that my boys like to be in front of my lens, it’s more about what ‘I do’ and ‘don’t do’ before I ever click that shutter. Seizing the opportunity to document those moments when they are being themselves; playing together, sharing a silly joke, tickling one another, and even just sharing a quiet moment is a huge part of who I am as a photographer.
I want to remember and I want them to remember what it was like growing up together as brothers and friends.
A brother is a friend given by nature. – Jean Baptiste Legouve
I’d like to share a little bit about my process of documenting my boys together.
I found that over the past couple years as I look through my portfolio a good portion of my work emphasizes the relationships between my boys. It’s an amazing feeling to look back at various times in their short lives and see the evidence of how special their bond and sibling connections are to one another.
I hope that someday when they are older they will look back at the many photos I made of them and be transported back in time to those strong bonds of brotherhood.
To the outside world, we all grow old. But not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other’s hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. We live outside the touch of time. – Clara Ortega
So what is the key to documenting those special bonds that your children have with one another in your photography?
1. Stealth mode
I’ve said it before and I’ll continue to say it…. be stealth; don’t let them know you’re there! Invest in a long enough lens that you don’t need to be right in their face (I own both the Canon 100mm f/2.8 and the Canon 85mm f/1.8).
My kids don’t like having the camera in their face that much. The dynamics change when you as their parent and photographer are inserting yourself in to ‘their’ time. The goal is ‘capture them as they are’ not how they are when you’re watching.
I always acted different when my Mom or Dad was around. Just let them be little and do their thing.
2. Anticipation and patience
Not always easy to do, but the more you practice this way of shooting the easier it gets. Be ready for those moments before they happen. Learn who and how your children interact.
Do two of them play better together than the other two? Does big brother have a really special bond with little brother?
Begin to study the dynamics of their sibling-hood and as you do you’ll begin to be more equipped to capture the really special moments before they happen.
3. Make it more than a snapshot
Whether you have 2 children or 10, I believe you CAN create photos with all or most of your children in the same frame and make it portfolio worthy.
I have 4 boys, ages 8, 5, 5, and 5. It can be tricky sometimes. It’s easy to become lazy with the rules of composition when you’re shooting for the sake of documenting their childhood.
But for me, I enjoy being able to document those real, raw and organic moments that happen in the lives of my boys with the strength of a true photographic artist.
4. Direct your subjects without directing
Set the stage; pre-plan an activity you know they enjoy doing together.
It’s okay to suggest, let’s have a tickle party, or can you tell your brother a secret? Or how about suggest they play a simple game like pass it on or ask them to have a staring contest.
Just whatever you do in your ‘directing’ say it once, and then let the story unfold in front of you. Let them be authentic. The less direct I allow myself to be, the more engaging they are with one another.
It’s only when I am totally okay with just letting them be that I really relax and shoot from my heart and not from my head.
That brings me to…..forget posing! I have found it is difficult to capture an honest and authentic interaction between the boys if I try to pose them too much. Instead of posing them, ask them to play, sit, or be in a particular area where you like the light or location.
5. Avoid eye contact
Yes, avoid it!! Time and time again we, as photographers worry that a photo is ‘no good’ if our subjects do not make eye contact with us and our viewer.
Of course there are many reasons that you would want eye contact. However, hopefully here I have shown you compelling reasons why eye contact is not always the most important factor of creating a strong photo.
Without eye contact, it really draws your viewer in on an emotional level and they will begin to create the story that is between your subjects.
I love talking about this topic and hope that you’ll share your photos right here in the comments that you have captured of your children together! And of course, always happy to answer questions. Thank you!